Women in STEM

I graduated about two years ago in IT with my bachelors. Since then, I have been pushed out of a job because management was horrific and didn't show up or respond and when I did, I was retaliated agai...

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I’m currently finishing my PhD while raising a toddler, and I feel like I’m failing at both about 90% of the time. My male advisor keeps talking about grind culture and staying in the lab until midnig...

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I have plenty of mentors who give me great advice, but I realized today that I don’t have a single sponsor. Like someone who actually uses their power to get me in the room. It feels like men in my de...

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I just got my first lead role, and instead of celebrating, I’ve spent the last 48 hours convinced they sent the offer letter to the wrong person. I keep waiting for someone to tap me on the shoulder a...

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I was halfway through explaining my data analysis this morning when a junior engineer literally cut me off to explain my own slide back to me. I was so stunned I just let him finish, but now I’m kicki...

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I had a huge presentation today with some visiting execs and decided to wear actual heels for once instead of my beat-up sneakers. Of course, that was the day a sample leaked, and I had to navigate a ...

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I’m turning 40 this year and I’m starting to feel invisible in a way I didn't expect. All the recruiters reaching out to me are looking for young, hungry devs who can disrupt things, which usually jus...

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I got promoted to Lead recently, but my actual day-to-day has just become 8 hours of meetings and unblocking others. I feel like I’ve become a highly-paid secretary who knows Python. I’m worried that ...

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I’m headed to a big conference next month and I’m already dreading the after-parties. It’s always a sea of guys getting drunk, and as a solo woman, it feels either predatory or just plain awkward. I w...

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My performance reviews are always like… you’re doing great, everyone loves you! with zero actionable technical feedback. Meanwhile, my male peers get specific critiques on their system design and arch...

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My current startup celebrates sleeping under the desk as a badge of honor, and I’m just... over it. I can get my work done in 40 hours, but I feel judged for not being online at midnight. It feels lik...

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How do you shut down diversity hire comments without losing your cool? Someone in the office kitchen today made a joke about how the only reason I got the lead =role was because the company needed to ...

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I’m seriously considering quitting my corporate job to go full-time freelance/consulting. I’m tired of the politics, the biased reviews, and the endless lean in seminars that don't actually change any...

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I haven’t spoken to another woman at work in over a week. My entire department is men, my manager is a man, and even my Slack DMs are 100% dudes. Does the isolation ever get easier, or do you just get...

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Our CTO is pushing everyone to use Copilot for everything, and honestly, I’m conflicted. I feel like it’s great for boilerplate, but I’m seeing the junior devs stop learning how things actually work u...

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Has anyone else noticed their referrals getting suspiciously overlooked compared to the guys'? I’ve referred three highly qualified women to our open roles in the last six months, and not one of them ...

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Is it actually possible to be a high-performing engineer and a present parent? I’m returning from maternity leave next month and the brain fog is real. I used to be the person who stayed late to squas...

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My company is hiring for a new DevOps lead, and the hiring manager keep saying a candidate isn't a culture fit because she doesn't play video games or vibe with the Friday beer rounds. It feels like c...

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I’ve been an IC for ten years and I’m finally being offered a manager role, but I’m hesitant. I love building things, and I’m worried that moving into people leadership is just leaning into the stereo...

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I feel like there's no winning with how we dress. If I wear a blazer, I’m trying too hard, but if I wear a hoodie, I’m unprofessional or look like an intern. The guys just wear the same gray shirt eve...

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